Monday, July 6, 2015
Gothic Girl Dolls
Dollar General sells a line of Monster High ripoffs called "Gothic Girl", and I've really taken a liking to them. They're a lot of fun to customize.
Sunday, December 9, 2012
Nineteen through 21
19. What do relationships mean to you?
Y'know, I don't know. That word must mean something to me, though. I think it has "implications" of some kind because I feel squicked thinking about myself attaching that word to the word "family".
Ok, so I guess to me, they... Goddamn, I don't know. Honest, I can't answer this question. I don't know what you're asking or what you mean by that, and the more I try to think about it, the more annoyed I become. I don't know what you're asking. There's your answer. Relationships means "leave me alone".
Tumblr decided to break down, so I'll just borrow the questions from another site. This might be another "too annoying to continue" day. But I do like her site. It's cheering me up a lot reading her Child-Free stuff.
20. Tell us about your partner(s). If you are not in a relationship, tell us about your best friend(s).
That'd probably be J-Virgo and Zero. I've known Zero for (what is it now?) twelve, maybe even fourteen years. Since we were 11 and 12. We really grew up together, and we had more than one strech of "I'm not talking to you" but in the end, we always got back together as friends.
Not much to say about our friendship that doesn't sound whiny and emo, but we met at day camp and bonded over anime (this was in 1996, when anime was anything but easily accessible, by the way) and over not being "the cool kids". Zero helps me... live. Really. I would be too overwhelmed to do little things like learn to order cable and internet, pay a bill, use a credit card, look for a house/job. Zero makes me unafraid.
J-Virgo I met in college and we bonded hardcore over astrology. Most of our friendship consists of fighting (not real fighting, arguing) in front of people, but when we're alone, it's all snarky bonding.
21. Your favorite asexual quote.
While googling, I remembered Ardal O'Hanlon had my all time favorite. Especially that last sentence.
But luckily, I have no interest in sex at all. Y'know, it's so undignified really, isn't it? Attaching yourself to another human being like that. And making all those faces. Surely there must be a more dignified way to express your love and admiration for another human being. Y'know, like baking them a nice cake or something. Or just leaving them alone for awhile.
22. What do you believe causes asexuality?
Superior genes
A beta version of a higher step in the evolution of intelligence
Overpopulation
Million billion people + Law of Averages. If every person born equals ten dice rolled for sexuality, with, say, 1 equaling "no interest in this aspect of coupling" then eventually you're going to come up with a roll that's all ones, or ones and twos.
Y'know, I don't know. That word must mean something to me, though. I think it has "implications" of some kind because I feel squicked thinking about myself attaching that word to the word "family".
Ok, so I guess to me, they... Goddamn, I don't know. Honest, I can't answer this question. I don't know what you're asking or what you mean by that, and the more I try to think about it, the more annoyed I become. I don't know what you're asking. There's your answer. Relationships means "leave me alone".
Tumblr decided to break down, so I'll just borrow the questions from another site. This might be another "too annoying to continue" day. But I do like her site. It's cheering me up a lot reading her Child-Free stuff.
20. Tell us about your partner(s). If you are not in a relationship, tell us about your best friend(s).
That'd probably be J-Virgo and Zero. I've known Zero for (what is it now?) twelve, maybe even fourteen years. Since we were 11 and 12. We really grew up together, and we had more than one strech of "I'm not talking to you" but in the end, we always got back together as friends.
Not much to say about our friendship that doesn't sound whiny and emo, but we met at day camp and bonded over anime (this was in 1996, when anime was anything but easily accessible, by the way) and over not being "the cool kids". Zero helps me... live. Really. I would be too overwhelmed to do little things like learn to order cable and internet, pay a bill, use a credit card, look for a house/job. Zero makes me unafraid.
J-Virgo I met in college and we bonded hardcore over astrology. Most of our friendship consists of fighting (not real fighting, arguing) in front of people, but when we're alone, it's all snarky bonding.
21. Your favorite asexual quote.
While googling, I remembered Ardal O'Hanlon had my all time favorite. Especially that last sentence.
But luckily, I have no interest in sex at all. Y'know, it's so undignified really, isn't it? Attaching yourself to another human being like that. And making all those faces. Surely there must be a more dignified way to express your love and admiration for another human being. Y'know, like baking them a nice cake or something. Or just leaving them alone for awhile.
22. What do you believe causes asexuality?
A beta version of a higher step in the evolution of intelligence
Overpopulation
Million billion people + Law of Averages. If every person born equals ten dice rolled for sexuality, with, say, 1 equaling "no interest in this aspect of coupling" then eventually you're going to come up with a roll that's all ones, or ones and twos.
Monday, November 5, 2012
Another Meme Update
14. Tell us about a time you met another asexual, whether in real life or online.
Ok, for real this time. At the Midwest GLBT(ect) College conference, I met an adorable freshman boy who ran an asexuality workshop. It was very good and well put together. Amazingly well put together, considering he was only a Freshman, and so would not have attended one of these conferences before. It had a good turnout, too. It was also the first time the conference ever had an asexuality workshop, so I'm glad he did it. I forget his name, but I hope he's doing alright for himself. He probably is.
15. Your favorite asexual character/celebrity/person.
Paula Poundstone.
16. Your favorite “asexual” book (as in, sex and/or romance are not the main focus).
Difficult to say, since I usually miss or ignore the sex/romance plots of most books unless (or until) they brutally hit me over the head with it. I'm going with Three Men in a Boat (To say Nothing of the Dog) by Jerome K. Jerome. It's hilarious in the 1900's dry British humor way.
Wait, was it written in the early 1900's? *Google* No, it was written in 1889. Close enough?
17. Your favorite “asexual” movie
Ehhh... The Two Towers?
18. Tell us a funny joke about asexuality
Would if I knew one!
Ok, for real this time. At the Midwest GLBT(ect) College conference, I met an adorable freshman boy who ran an asexuality workshop. It was very good and well put together. Amazingly well put together, considering he was only a Freshman, and so would not have attended one of these conferences before. It had a good turnout, too. It was also the first time the conference ever had an asexuality workshop, so I'm glad he did it. I forget his name, but I hope he's doing alright for himself. He probably is.
15. Your favorite asexual character/celebrity/person.
Paula Poundstone.
16. Your favorite “asexual” book (as in, sex and/or romance are not the main focus).
Difficult to say, since I usually miss or ignore the sex/romance plots of most books unless (or until) they brutally hit me over the head with it. I'm going with Three Men in a Boat (To say Nothing of the Dog) by Jerome K. Jerome. It's hilarious in the 1900's dry British humor way.
Wait, was it written in the early 1900's? *Google* No, it was written in 1889. Close enough?
17. Your favorite “asexual” movie
Ehhh... The Two Towers?
18. Tell us a funny joke about asexuality
Would if I knew one!
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
Pretend Update on Thirty Day Meme
12. Your favorite asexual Tumblr site.
Do DIY sites count? Hah, no, I guess not. I don't really have a favorite. I kinda like "you know you're asexual when" and "Asexual people problems" if only to think to myself of how to combat said problem with trolling. When life gives you lemons, put on your Trollface. Juggle them and go "U Mad Bro?"
13. Your favorite asexual website.
All websites are asexual. Websites can't have a sex dr-- fine, AVEN. It's the only one I know of.
14. Tell us about a time you met another asexual, whether in real life or online.
Maybe I shouldn't do these when I'm antsy and a little annoyed, so here's what I'm going to do. I'll answer this question now, then again later when I'm feeling... when I can do it properly.
Ahem.
Well, I met this one "asexual" once; we'll call her A.C (even though her real name is C.A) and she was a bitter, hate-filled SJW who did nothing but post about how terrible everyone is, call people "assholes" if they dared say anything contrary to her beliefs, called everything "mysogynist" which is fine, but she never pointed out anything that was "positive towards women" which makes me think she was just a great big unlikable whiner. Only, she's not asexual anymore since she got a girlfriend, who she posts about constantly, never using the girl's name, only calling her "MY GIRLFRIEND" you know, just to remind us, so I'm thinking that the "asexual" thing she was doing was really more of a "nobody will f**king touch me because I'm disgusting on the inside and don't know how to be nice to people and I hate you all but mostly I hate myself". … God, i feel sorry for that girl who has been newly baptized "My Girlfriend" (though "Mai Waifu" would be more apt, since C.A, I mean A.C is a total WeeaBoo.
^Emotionally distracting myself and I know it. Humans do this sometimes.
Do DIY sites count? Hah, no, I guess not. I don't really have a favorite. I kinda like "you know you're asexual when" and "Asexual people problems" if only to think to myself of how to combat said problem with trolling. When life gives you lemons, put on your Trollface. Juggle them and go "U Mad Bro?"
13. Your favorite asexual website.
All websites are asexual. Websites can't have a sex dr-- fine, AVEN. It's the only one I know of.
14. Tell us about a time you met another asexual, whether in real life or online.
Maybe I shouldn't do these when I'm antsy and a little annoyed, so here's what I'm going to do. I'll answer this question now, then again later when I'm feeling... when I can do it properly.
Ahem.
Well, I met this one "asexual" once; we'll call her A.C (even though her real name is C.A) and she was a bitter, hate-filled SJW who did nothing but post about how terrible everyone is, call people "assholes" if they dared say anything contrary to her beliefs, called everything "mysogynist" which is fine, but she never pointed out anything that was "positive towards women" which makes me think she was just a great big unlikable whiner. Only, she's not asexual anymore since she got a girlfriend, who she posts about constantly, never using the girl's name, only calling her "MY GIRLFRIEND" you know, just to remind us, so I'm thinking that the "asexual" thing she was doing was really more of a "nobody will f**king touch me because I'm disgusting on the inside and don't know how to be nice to people and I hate you all but mostly I hate myself". … God, i feel sorry for that girl who has been newly baptized "My Girlfriend" (though "Mai Waifu" would be more apt, since C.A, I mean A.C is a total WeeaBoo.
^Emotionally distracting myself and I know it. Humans do this sometimes.
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
Asexual Meme the Third
Yeah, more Ace Meme
8. Do you believe there should be asexual pride? What do you imagine it being like?
Sure, why not? I don't know if you mean an event or a physical, wearable symbol (like the black ring) or an attitude, so I'll imagine all three.
Asexual pride event- kinda pointless-ish. A talking group within communities would be kinda nice. A place where asexuals could meet others and make friends and complain a little. Face-to-face complaining is definitely better than internet-bitching because there's less drama schmama.
Asexual Pride Wearable Symbol- we already have our own flag, colors, triangle, and a nifty ring. I guess if I were designing one, it'd be something boring. A lock. If it was just for me, it'd be a lock surrounded by tentacles and a tiny little albatross flying away with a key.
Asexual Pride Attitude- the no-nonsense British Nanny attitude, looking at questioners with unwavering, unapologetic, you-silly-child-I-will-mind-you-but-I-will-be-firm calmness, reiterating the basics: your thoughts are not my thoughts, I already said no, and I don't see why you find this hard to understand, but just give it time and you'll get used to it. And, of course, lots of "you not believing me isn't going to give me a sex drive". Robotic if need be.
9. What does being asexual mean to you?
It means I ain't really interested in sex. *Flat look*
Alright, I should make more of an effort. It means sex literally does not interest me. I don't feel the need to seek it. I don't care if I never, ever have any kind of sex. It means I'd be significantly more upset if I knew I would never RP again, never get a new enjoyable audio book, never have a cat, never go into the woods, never have entire days of solitude, or never draw with my tablet again than if I never had sex. It means if someone said "take this magic potion and you will deeply enjoy sex with this attractive person" I wouldn't even be interested in that.
I don't see the point in my having it. I understand that my friends enjoy it and I'm happy that they enjoy it, in the same way that my friend adores K-Pop and I'm happy she likes it but I don't really care about it.
But there's more. I've listened to K-Pop with my friend, heard her talking about it, enjoyed hearing her enjoy it, and watched a few TV shows with her and enjoyed her enjoyment of it, paid attention and listened to her explaining things to me. It's more about me enjoying spending time with her, though. I think that if I ever met a person who I liked, and we became close friends and they wanted sex specifically with me, I would not rule out having a K-Pop-esque relationship with them about it. Well... kinda. We'd have to be in character, though. Unless they've got a kink for dead-faced or otherwise not-paying-much-attention partners.
Super flippant answer: It means no.
10. What have other people said about your asexuality?
Annoying shyte. The usual. "finding the right person" mostly, and all that shyte that lonely sexuals say because they desperately don't want to believe that they could be forever alone. I'm starting to think that some sexuals are unconsciously nervous about the concept of asexuality, to the point where it's almost threatening. Subconsciously, that is, because there's nothing they're able to point to and say "that's scary".
Not to pick on straight people, but let's take, for example, a heterosexual male who is not secure. [DISCLAIMER: for the record, my best friend, J-Virgo, once confessed his love to a straight guy, who extremely politely said that he was flattered, but not gay, and hoped that J-Virgo would still be his friend. So don't think for one second that I'm making a blanket statement. I'm speaking to Social Justice Sallies here]
Back to the example. Imaginary Insecure Hetero-Man might be threatened by Imaginary Hypothetical Gay Man. Het-Man's fears can be described in tangible terms- "this threatens my sexuality with male-on-male action". But what's the threat with Hypothetical Asexual? Not so easy to describe. "This threatens my sexuality by introducing a black void where sex does not exist." Nature abhors a vacum, guys. There's nothing to put there, and human brains don't exactly have a schema for "this is the nothing". That's why death frightens so many people. That's why they invented "the afterlife". The concept of nothing is scary, and the absence of sexuality is terrifying.
Annnnnnd, I fear I've gone into tl;dr territory. I need a damned editor.
11. If you’re out, talk about the most accepting person you’ve come out to.
Oh, there are so many. I guess it'd have to be my constant ally, J-Virgo. How is he the most accepting? When I told him, he just said "ok". If I ever expressed aesthetic admiration of a person, he never said "but aren't you asexual?!". He never brought up my asexuality. If someone was giving me a hard time, he'd help me out. He never treated it like a case to be debunked, a lie that needed vigilance for when I "slipped up", or a huge production requiring a parade. That's acceptance to me.
8. Do you believe there should be asexual pride? What do you imagine it being like?
Sure, why not? I don't know if you mean an event or a physical, wearable symbol (like the black ring) or an attitude, so I'll imagine all three.
Asexual pride event- kinda pointless-ish. A talking group within communities would be kinda nice. A place where asexuals could meet others and make friends and complain a little. Face-to-face complaining is definitely better than internet-bitching because there's less drama schmama.
Asexual Pride Wearable Symbol- we already have our own flag, colors, triangle, and a nifty ring. I guess if I were designing one, it'd be something boring. A lock. If it was just for me, it'd be a lock surrounded by tentacles and a tiny little albatross flying away with a key.
Asexual Pride Attitude- the no-nonsense British Nanny attitude, looking at questioners with unwavering, unapologetic, you-silly-child-I-will-mind-you-but-I-will-be-firm calmness, reiterating the basics: your thoughts are not my thoughts, I already said no, and I don't see why you find this hard to understand, but just give it time and you'll get used to it. And, of course, lots of "you not believing me isn't going to give me a sex drive". Robotic if need be.
9. What does being asexual mean to you?
It means I ain't really interested in sex. *Flat look*
Alright, I should make more of an effort. It means sex literally does not interest me. I don't feel the need to seek it. I don't care if I never, ever have any kind of sex. It means I'd be significantly more upset if I knew I would never RP again, never get a new enjoyable audio book, never have a cat, never go into the woods, never have entire days of solitude, or never draw with my tablet again than if I never had sex. It means if someone said "take this magic potion and you will deeply enjoy sex with this attractive person" I wouldn't even be interested in that.
I don't see the point in my having it. I understand that my friends enjoy it and I'm happy that they enjoy it, in the same way that my friend adores K-Pop and I'm happy she likes it but I don't really care about it.
But there's more. I've listened to K-Pop with my friend, heard her talking about it, enjoyed hearing her enjoy it, and watched a few TV shows with her and enjoyed her enjoyment of it, paid attention and listened to her explaining things to me. It's more about me enjoying spending time with her, though. I think that if I ever met a person who I liked, and we became close friends and they wanted sex specifically with me, I would not rule out having a K-Pop-esque relationship with them about it. Well... kinda. We'd have to be in character, though. Unless they've got a kink for dead-faced or otherwise not-paying-much-attention partners.
Super flippant answer: It means no.
10. What have other people said about your asexuality?
Annoying shyte. The usual. "finding the right person" mostly, and all that shyte that lonely sexuals say because they desperately don't want to believe that they could be forever alone. I'm starting to think that some sexuals are unconsciously nervous about the concept of asexuality, to the point where it's almost threatening. Subconsciously, that is, because there's nothing they're able to point to and say "that's scary".
Not to pick on straight people, but let's take, for example, a heterosexual male who is not secure. [DISCLAIMER: for the record, my best friend, J-Virgo, once confessed his love to a straight guy, who extremely politely said that he was flattered, but not gay, and hoped that J-Virgo would still be his friend. So don't think for one second that I'm making a blanket statement. I'm speaking to Social Justice Sallies here]
Back to the example. Imaginary Insecure Hetero-Man might be threatened by Imaginary Hypothetical Gay Man. Het-Man's fears can be described in tangible terms- "this threatens my sexuality with male-on-male action". But what's the threat with Hypothetical Asexual? Not so easy to describe. "This threatens my sexuality by introducing a black void where sex does not exist." Nature abhors a vacum, guys. There's nothing to put there, and human brains don't exactly have a schema for "this is the nothing". That's why death frightens so many people. That's why they invented "the afterlife". The concept of nothing is scary, and the absence of sexuality is terrifying.
Annnnnnd, I fear I've gone into tl;dr territory. I need a damned editor.
11. If you’re out, talk about the most accepting person you’ve come out to.
Oh, there are so many. I guess it'd have to be my constant ally, J-Virgo. How is he the most accepting? When I told him, he just said "ok". If I ever expressed aesthetic admiration of a person, he never said "but aren't you asexual?!". He never brought up my asexuality. If someone was giving me a hard time, he'd help me out. He never treated it like a case to be debunked, a lie that needed vigilance for when I "slipped up", or a huge production requiring a parade. That's acceptance to me.
Wednesday, September 19, 2012
Asexuality Meme Continued
I'm very, very sleepy, so let's wake up with more questions from this meme thing.
4. Do you identify as a part of the queer community? What communities do you identify with?
How do I put this? … I know I am part of the queer community, being trans and asexual. I definitely do have other transboys that I'm friends with as well as gay and lesbian people (and bisexual, pansexual...).
"Identifying with" though? It's really difficult to say. I've been around a lot of poisoned-Queers lately. You know, the ones who think it's ok to act just like the anti-gay bigots, the ones who think it's acceptable to belittle and shame and act nasty to anyone who isn't queer. Obviously, that's not the whole queer community, but the thing about the people I hang out with is... us being rainbow babies doesn't really come up a lot. We're just friends who have common interests, and that's all.
Look, when there are elections and important legislations, we vote. When someone is being actively detrimental, we speak up (respectfully, not with intent to harm, thank you very much Social Justice Limbaughs). My friend Z and I spend many hours talking about her relationship with her girlfriend and about their RP about two gay men. But I'm kinda over making a big song and dance about not being heterosexual.
5. Tell the story of the first person you came out to.
Shhhhoot, you know I honestly don't even rightly remember? Our college was very, very tiny (200 people) and since one person had to tell me I was asexual, about a day or two later, everyone knew without me saying anything.
I guess I kinda told my mother and she said the usual thing about "you'll find the right person" but it was a very lackluster, non-memorable conversation. Asexuality's not something that I feel the need to "come out" about. It's not like "I LIKE GUYS!" or "I LIKE GIRLS!" or "I LIKE BOTH!" This is "Hey everyone! I have an announcement! … I don't like guys or girls in that way!"
Oh, and there was that time at the Midwest GLBT college conference when I mentioned I was asexual and someone said "that sounds like a challenge". That didn't really count, though, since she didn't even go to my school and I'd never even see her again.
6. Have you faced oppression because of your asexuality, whether institutional or societal?
*Unimpressed stare*
Seriously, how is someone going to oppress an asexual? Someone can harass, annoy, bother, pester, or be extremely disrespectful to an asexual, but they can't oppress us. What law can possibly be passed to oppress us? They going to take away our right to vote? Impose a tax on not having sex?
No, there's no oppression, and we as an asexual community need to stop trying to think of ways we are oppressed. We're falling for that ugly thinking from Ugly Radicals who would have us believe that if aspect-X about you is not oppressed, then you are a puppy kicker. Those people have poisoned the world and it's because they themselves are ugly on the inside and are incapable of showing anyone kindness, which is why nobody shows them any.
7. Who’s your favorite Doctor? (Or, do you have a favorite asexual character?)
I really can't think of any asexual characters, so I'll say Mr. Bean. Sheldon Cooper would be the other I'd list, but I'm not entirely sure if he is anymore.
4. Do you identify as a part of the queer community? What communities do you identify with?
How do I put this? … I know I am part of the queer community, being trans and asexual. I definitely do have other transboys that I'm friends with as well as gay and lesbian people (and bisexual, pansexual...).
"Identifying with" though? It's really difficult to say. I've been around a lot of poisoned-Queers lately. You know, the ones who think it's ok to act just like the anti-gay bigots, the ones who think it's acceptable to belittle and shame and act nasty to anyone who isn't queer. Obviously, that's not the whole queer community, but the thing about the people I hang out with is... us being rainbow babies doesn't really come up a lot. We're just friends who have common interests, and that's all.
Look, when there are elections and important legislations, we vote. When someone is being actively detrimental, we speak up (respectfully, not with intent to harm, thank you very much Social Justice Limbaughs). My friend Z and I spend many hours talking about her relationship with her girlfriend and about their RP about two gay men. But I'm kinda over making a big song and dance about not being heterosexual.
5. Tell the story of the first person you came out to.
Shhhhoot, you know I honestly don't even rightly remember? Our college was very, very tiny (200 people) and since one person had to tell me I was asexual, about a day or two later, everyone knew without me saying anything.
I guess I kinda told my mother and she said the usual thing about "you'll find the right person" but it was a very lackluster, non-memorable conversation. Asexuality's not something that I feel the need to "come out" about. It's not like "I LIKE GUYS!" or "I LIKE GIRLS!" or "I LIKE BOTH!" This is "Hey everyone! I have an announcement! … I don't like guys or girls in that way!"
Oh, and there was that time at the Midwest GLBT college conference when I mentioned I was asexual and someone said "that sounds like a challenge". That didn't really count, though, since she didn't even go to my school and I'd never even see her again.
6. Have you faced oppression because of your asexuality, whether institutional or societal?
*Unimpressed stare*
Seriously, how is someone going to oppress an asexual? Someone can harass, annoy, bother, pester, or be extremely disrespectful to an asexual, but they can't oppress us. What law can possibly be passed to oppress us? They going to take away our right to vote? Impose a tax on not having sex?
No, there's no oppression, and we as an asexual community need to stop trying to think of ways we are oppressed. We're falling for that ugly thinking from Ugly Radicals who would have us believe that if aspect-X about you is not oppressed, then you are a puppy kicker. Those people have poisoned the world and it's because they themselves are ugly on the inside and are incapable of showing anyone kindness, which is why nobody shows them any.
7. Who’s your favorite Doctor? (Or, do you have a favorite asexual character?)
I really can't think of any asexual characters, so I'll say Mr. Bean. Sheldon Cooper would be the other I'd list, but I'm not entirely sure if he is anymore.
Saturday, September 15, 2012
Thirty Days (notreally) Asexualality Challenge
Why not procrastinate on whatever it is I'm meant to be doing by answering the first three questions of this thing I've been putting off?
1. What is your romantic/sexual orientation?
I am... asexual aromantic. That's the best way to put it, though my previous room mate describes it differently. He didn't have a name for it.
"This is you with dating. Someone's like "Harp, we should date!" and you're like "(bored voice) ok, if you want" and they're like "Harp, we should make out now." and you're like "(apathetic voice)Alright, I guess." And sometimes in my head, if someone's insanely smart, I'll imagine that I could see myself interested (literally, I fantasize about saying "wow, I would probably not say no if we had a relationship and it involved sex").
Therefore, my romantic/sexual orientation is asexual/aromantic with honorable mention going to compliant/apathetic and imaginary/removed.
2. Are you out? To whom?
I can't really say I'm "out" but I'm not exactly in, either. There are situations when I find it necessary or appropriate for a person to mention their sexual identity- if someone asks, if someone expresses interest, if someone's making a rude remark or joke, if there's a discussion and everyone's telling their identity in that " the delegates from each sexual orientation will now identify themselves for our round table discussion" way.
Aside from those situations, I just don't see the use in my own coming out. It's kinda none of my family's business, as they aren't the type to get all nosey and "Y U NO MARRY?!" They'll probably assume it's because I'm so weird that nobody'll have me, but they're family, so what do I care what they think? :P (Family is the ultimate trolling experience once you're financially independent because if someone hates you or what you are, you've always got the upper hand. No matter how much they despise you, they will always have that tie with you. Sure, there's the natural urge to think "my uncle hates me because I'm a librarian and he thinks librarians are disgusting" but with practice, you'll be grinning to yourself and thinking "ha ha, too bad, you're related to a librarian! U Mad! :P")
3. How old were you when you realized you were asexual? What made you realize it?
I was nineteen and someone had to suggest it to me. I was trying to sort myself and lamenting on my disinterest to my friends H and C when C said "you're probably asexual". I'd never heard the word and probably asked if that was actually a thing.
In the following weeks, everything just started to make sense. You know how you go through the card file of life moments and realize that you or other people have hinted at things that align with your current situation? That was me, and oh wow did I enjoy it. I'd only felt this sense of "I have a label and it fits!" once before, and that was during the beginning of my astrology kick when I had tremendous Pisces pride. Since then, those are the only two identities that I've ever really cared about with such fondness.
1. What is your romantic/sexual orientation?
I am... asexual aromantic. That's the best way to put it, though my previous room mate describes it differently. He didn't have a name for it.
"This is you with dating. Someone's like "Harp, we should date!" and you're like "(bored voice) ok, if you want" and they're like "Harp, we should make out now." and you're like "(apathetic voice)Alright, I guess." And sometimes in my head, if someone's insanely smart, I'll imagine that I could see myself interested (literally, I fantasize about saying "wow, I would probably not say no if we had a relationship and it involved sex").
Therefore, my romantic/sexual orientation is asexual/aromantic with honorable mention going to compliant/apathetic and imaginary/removed.
2. Are you out? To whom?
I can't really say I'm "out" but I'm not exactly in, either. There are situations when I find it necessary or appropriate for a person to mention their sexual identity- if someone asks, if someone expresses interest, if someone's making a rude remark or joke, if there's a discussion and everyone's telling their identity in that " the delegates from each sexual orientation will now identify themselves for our round table discussion" way.
Aside from those situations, I just don't see the use in my own coming out. It's kinda none of my family's business, as they aren't the type to get all nosey and "Y U NO MARRY?!" They'll probably assume it's because I'm so weird that nobody'll have me, but they're family, so what do I care what they think? :P (Family is the ultimate trolling experience once you're financially independent because if someone hates you or what you are, you've always got the upper hand. No matter how much they despise you, they will always have that tie with you. Sure, there's the natural urge to think "my uncle hates me because I'm a librarian and he thinks librarians are disgusting" but with practice, you'll be grinning to yourself and thinking "ha ha, too bad, you're related to a librarian! U Mad! :P")
3. How old were you when you realized you were asexual? What made you realize it?
I was nineteen and someone had to suggest it to me. I was trying to sort myself and lamenting on my disinterest to my friends H and C when C said "you're probably asexual". I'd never heard the word and probably asked if that was actually a thing.
In the following weeks, everything just started to make sense. You know how you go through the card file of life moments and realize that you or other people have hinted at things that align with your current situation? That was me, and oh wow did I enjoy it. I'd only felt this sense of "I have a label and it fits!" once before, and that was during the beginning of my astrology kick when I had tremendous Pisces pride. Since then, those are the only two identities that I've ever really cared about with such fondness.
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