Asexuality Meme Continued

I'm very, very sleepy, so let's wake up with more questions from this meme thing.

4. Do you identify as a part of the queer community? What communities do you identify with?
How do I put this? … I know I am part of the queer community, being trans and asexual. I definitely do have other transboys that I'm friends with as well as gay and lesbian people (and bisexual, pansexual...).

"Identifying with" though? It's really difficult to say. I've been around a lot of poisoned-Queers lately. You know, the ones who think it's ok to act just like the anti-gay bigots, the ones who think it's acceptable to belittle and shame and act nasty to anyone who isn't queer. Obviously, that's not the whole queer community, but the thing about the people I hang out with is... us being rainbow babies doesn't really come up a lot. We're just friends who have common interests, and that's all.

Look, when there are elections and important legislations, we vote. When someone is being actively detrimental, we speak up (respectfully, not with intent to harm, thank you very much Social Justice Limbaughs). My friend Z and I spend many hours talking about her relationship with her girlfriend and about their RP about two gay men. But I'm kinda over making a big song and dance about not being heterosexual.

5. Tell the story of the first person you came out to.

Shhhhoot, you know I honestly don't even rightly remember? Our college was very, very tiny (200 people) and since one person had to tell me I was asexual, about a day or two later, everyone knew without me saying anything.

I guess I kinda told my mother and she said the usual thing about "you'll find the right person" but it was a very lackluster, non-memorable conversation. Asexuality's not something that I feel the need to "come out" about. It's not like "I LIKE GUYS!" or "I LIKE GIRLS!" or "I LIKE BOTH!" This is "Hey everyone! I have an announcement! … I don't like guys or girls in that way!"

Oh, and there was that time at the Midwest GLBT college conference when I mentioned I was asexual and someone said "that sounds like a challenge". That didn't really count, though, since she didn't even go to my school and I'd never even see her again.

6. Have you faced oppression because of your asexuality, whether institutional or societal?

*Unimpressed stare*
Seriously, how is someone going to oppress an asexual? Someone can harass, annoy, bother, pester, or be extremely disrespectful to an asexual, but they can't oppress us. What law can possibly be passed to oppress us? They going to take away our right to vote? Impose a tax on not having sex?

No, there's no oppression, and we as an asexual community need to stop trying to think of ways we are oppressed. We're falling for that ugly thinking from Ugly Radicals who would have us believe that if aspect-X about you is not oppressed, then you are a puppy kicker. Those people have poisoned the world and it's because they themselves are ugly on the inside and are incapable of showing anyone kindness, which is why nobody shows them any.

7. Who’s your favorite Doctor? (Or, do you have a favorite asexual character?)

I really can't think of any asexual characters, so I'll say Mr. Bean. Sheldon Cooper would be the other I'd list, but I'm not entirely sure if he is anymore.